1. KM

    Good stuff. Things to ponder and pray about. It’s important to ask the Father for help in seeing people the way He sees them. It takes God to truly love people. Yes, even for a pastor 🙂

    • True! Sometimes we focus on ourselves and see other people as random, bit players in our magnum opus performance on the world stage. God has a plan, and a special love-filled purpose for ALL his children.

      Sometimes I catch myself in the middle of a “switch around” of words in the the Bible to fit a Biblical truth I discover. I then realize my mistake and open my Bible to get the verse right. One such is “We love others because he first loved us.” I was sure that I was twisting scripture, but then luckily I was being faithful to scripture despite myself:

      1 John 4:10-19

      10 Herein is love, not that we loved God, but that he loved us, and sent his Son to be the propitiation for our sins.

      11 Beloved, if God so loved us, we ought also to love one another.

      12 No man hath seen God at any time. If we love one another, God dwelleth in us, and his love is perfected in us.

      13 Hereby know we that we dwell in him, and he in us, because he hath given us of his Spirit.

      14 And we have seen and do testify that the Father sent the Son to be the Saviour of the world.

      15 Whosoever shall confess that Jesus is the Son of God, God dwelleth in him, and he in God.

      16 And we have known and believed the love that God hath to us. God is love; and he that dwelleth in love dwelleth in God, and God in him.

      17 Herein is our love made perfect, that we may have boldness in the day of judgment: because as he is, so are we in this world.

      18 There is no fear in love; but perfect love casteth out fear: because fear hath torment. He that feareth is not made perfect in love.

      19 We love him, because he first loved us.

      Let’s help each other fulfill the plan God prepared in advance for us in 1 Corinthians 13 fashion-even right along with a pastor!

  2. Please stay tuned to this blog post and further developments that I will link to it. I am in the planning and get r done phase for creating a transformation information product for pastors that has a huge section interrelated to the whole of the product on this subject. The kicker is that it will be focused on pastor and staff/directors/leaders relations and organizational dynamics. To put is simply it will be the stop church splits from ever beginning from the source for pastors.

    There is much more that could be said, it is just too soon, and there will be some powerful suff that I will share leading up to the launch of the product.

    Stay tuned!

  3. michael

    will be “staying tuned”, James. may the Lord bless your efforts to bless the shepherds of his flock!

    please keep us posted as things move forward.

  4. Abbie

    Such a deeply important aspesct of pastoring. Having attended and been a part of different denominations and churches in different countries, the emotional intelligence of church leadership has been absolutely key to my trust of a pastor and the direction of a church. Thank you for bringing this to light James, as I’ve not seen or heard anyone else address the issue. I used to think that strong emotional intelligence was inate – either a person had it or they didn’t. But you are right in expressing that emotional intelligence can be developed. Great specific suggestions about how to do so. Thanks!

    • Thank you Abbie for your point of view and response concerning your agreement on ones’ ability to develop emotional intelligence, and the vast importance it can have with the pastor that does so.

      I have always discerned in the gospels that Jesus knew the exact way to perceive the emotional state and intention of those, for whom he related. It was one of the qualities that helped those in search of him to follow him. In contrast, he knew that there would be those who did not want him as Lord and would oppose him. I think the Book of John has the most telling accounts of Jesus emotional intelligence perception.

      With a word he could command the Great Commission in Matthew 28, and reveal the true intentions of his enemies. I think I will look deeper into his wise actions and words to help me understand how to lead better as well. Pastors have much in the way of his example for which they can follow.

    • Abbie, your comment is really spot on. I think that the emotional relationship that a pastor can forge with his flock is vital. When that is matched with the dedication to right doctrine and the scripture interpreting scripture it is a recipe for the Kingdom of God in our hearts. It is the emotional relationship with Jesus, not the cold logic of pure facts, but the love behind the work of the Cross that the Holy Spirit impresses upon us that bring us to our knees with repentance and trust in His work reconciliation! Thanks again Abbie!

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